Stopping the Violence
Stopping the Violence Program
Alternatives to Violence Services
Free individual and group counselling for individuals 19 years of age and over, who have experienced or are experiencing violence/abuse in their intimate partner relationships.
Within this program outreach services, advocacy, case management, accompaniment and referrals to other community agencies are also available.
If you or someone you know needs support, including safety planning, call our Alternatives to Violence Counselling Team at 604-594-3455.
If you are in immediate danger call 911
Survivors of Childhood Sexual Assault Services
Free individual counselling for individuals 19 years of age and over who have experienced childhood sexual assault.
Please contact our Alternatives to Violence Counselling Team at 604-594-3455 for more information.
During COVID-19 Lies a Shadow Pandemic – Learn More
While COVID-19 is forcing us to stay home, many couples are finding ways to adapt to being in close quarters and trying to cope as best as they can. However, we also know that many individuals are also living in abusive relationships during this stressful time. Reports indicate that there is a significant risk in domestic violence since last year.
While conflicts and disagreements are part of all relationships and that, there are appropriate ways of behaving when dealing with these conflicts. When the behaviours in a relationship are inappropriate, an abusive relationship may develop. If you or someone you know is struggling with their relationship, it is important to know the differences between healthy, unhealthy and abusive relationships. Here is a resource for you to read.
Healthy-Relationships-Pamphlet-2020
Intimate partner violence (also known as relationship abuse) is a pattern of abusive behaviors – usually a series of abusive behaviors over a course of time – used to exert power and control over a partner.
Every relationship is different, but the things that unhealthy and abusive relationships have in common are issues of power and control. Violent words and actions are tools an abusive partner uses to gain and maintain power and control over their partner. The Power and Control Wheel is a tool that helps explain the different ways an abusive partner can use power and control to manipulate a relationship.
Here is a few different videos that can help explain what you or someone you know might be experiencing.
https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/understanding-power-control-wheel/
If you might have recognized that you or someone you know are in an abusive relationship, it’s not always easy to make decisions around what, if anything, you are going to do next.
Our Alternatives to Violence Counsellors are here to support you whether you make the choice to stay or leave, we are here to provide non- judgemental supports. We are here to listen and support you or your loved one. Meanwhile, we encourage you to have self-compassion during this time. Here are a few exercises that might be helpful.
https://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/#exercises
In addition to self-compassion, our counselling team would like to share a few examples of some safety plans that might be useful for you or someone you know.
Safety-Plan-2-When-staying-in-an-abusive-situation
Safety-Plan-1-When-Leaving-Abusive-Situation
Additional resources:
- Delta Police non-emergency 604.946.4411 to report abuse (24 hrs)
- Delta Police Victim Services 604.940.5019 – Support related to relationship violence, info on the Criminal Justice System, court support and referrals to community resources.
- Victimlink 1-800-563-0808
- Multi-cultural Victim Services (Mosaic) 604-254-9626
- Fraser Health Crisis Line 1-877-820-7444
- BC211 – list of shelters or transition houses dial 211 or visit www.bc211.ca
For more information, contact us.
If in immediate Crisis
For help with violence in Delta
Call VictimLink BC at 1.800.563.0808
For online resources on dealing with violence, visit our Delta Opposes Violence Everywhere (DOVE) page.
